Success: Are You Waiting for IT to Happen?
Everyone wants to feel like a success. You feel like it belongs to you, you deserve it, worked hard for it, and it should be the brand of your life. If not, most of us do anyway. Surprisingly, many people don't consider themselves to be successful. Why? The culprit is fear. We may think we lack the ability or have insufficient experience to achieve a task. As a result, fear can become a dominant emotion. It can keep the keep the gates to our promise locked up forever. Instead of seeing ourselves as moving forward, we begin to visualize our failure. I am guilty of that. I have thought myself out of many great ideas that I ended up doing nothing. Has it ever happened to you?
Another thing that hinders success is doubt. It makes us question our thinking our God-given abilities, and God's direction. Doubt can cause us to question whether or not the direction is from Him. Past failures and guilt over prior mistakes can create doubt just as much as critical comments from others can hinder us.
Success can also be hindered by the excuses we offer for not doing what we are supposed to do in life. But there is hope! There are ways to remove the blockers of success from our life.
Define what success means to you.
The Wall Street Journal says that you have to put success into context first before you can define it. It could be doing what you love or getting a degree. I think success is doing what I have been designed to do and mentoring someone else who can pick it up where I left off.
If I've made a positive impact along the way, then I feel like I am successful even if I don't hit the mark. I can say at least I tried and made a difference along the way. People will remember what you did for them not what you did for yourself.
The most important thing I want to emphasize about being successful is that you need to develop a relationship with God. It will be your primary defense against doubt and fear which can kill your confidence and quench your success. I use my 2015 Life Transforming Scripture Memory Plan printable to help build myself up in the Word of God. Now let's get on with it!
See yourself as successful.
How confident would you feel if you accomplished all your goals? How would it change your perspective on life and yourself? How would you approach your next set of challenges? I confidence level would sky rocket. I probably wouldn't talk or think myself out of all the great big ideas I've had. I wouldn't let logistics or finances get in the way. Well, you don't have to wait until success happens to feel that way. Visualize your life and where you want it to be every day. I think about my future all the time and I truly get excited because I see what I'm expecting.
Set goals, write them down, and develop an accountability system or partner.
It makes a difference when you take time to pen your thoughts and map them out. If you're serious, then make a commitment to stick to it. Set deadlines and trackers for yourself. Do what it takes to keep yourself accountable. I have financial goals, personal goals, and spirit goals. When I accomplish these things, I feel like a success. Success can come in small ways. You just can't overlook it when it's happening because you so focused on waiting for the big "it" to happen in your life. I use the budget worksheet from Passion For Savings, my goals worksheet printable from Just a Girl and Her Blog, and my lovely planner from Plum Paper Designs. Read my post about Purposeful Planning with my Plum Paper Planner. So as you can see, I have financial goals, personal goals, and spirit goals. When I accomplish these things, I feel like a success. Success can come in small ways. You just can't overlook it when it's happening because you so focused on waiting for the big "it" to happen in your life.
Get around others who are successful.
It's contagious. When you get around other who have travelled the roads of challenges, obstacles, setbacks, and success, you will learn and get motivated. It's not possible to be couch potato when you're surrounded by successful women. Their approach to challenges and how they strategize will begin to rub off. What you thought was too big for you begins to look doable. If you ever take the time to share with someone you admire or a mentor you find successful your goals, their natural response will be to encourage you and help you believe that you can do it.
Be intentional with your time and resources.
Develop habits that will lead you towards success. Read my blog, books, or articles that inspire you and keep you motivated. When you feed yourself with positive thinking and intentionally take on new habits you will become more motivated. I'm not saying that you will feel like you're going 100 mph every day. You may slow down at times, but don't stop. Success is a continuous. I don't know anyone personally who decided that they were successful enough in life that they didn't need to continue to be successful anymore. Very few successful people waste their time doing unnecessary things. If you feel like you don't have enough time to do everything, then consider sourcing out some tasks. If your finances don't allow you to source out tasks, then practice good work and resource management. It's a precious commodity you can't afford to waste.
Remember success doesn't come overnight.
Most people who may seem like an overnight success will tell you it took years and tears. The bible tells us that we should never despise small beginnings. The experience comes in the midst of the lessons we learn while reaching our goals. We can appreciate our success much more when we know it didn't come easy. That's not to say success must be hard for it to be real. Just remember to stretch yourself beyond your capability.
I would to hear your success story or how you overcame a challenge. What reminders do you give yourself when you need to be motivated?